Beyond Monogamy present CRUISING FOR CONVOS

Beyond Monogamy SA presents: Cruising for Convos

A monthly night of questionable conversation cues, plus a dance floor, cuddles and snacks

Convo Cue Cards | Foreplay | Pillow Talk | Body Language | Oral Fixation | Facilitators & Safety Monitors

Wednesday 11 November, 18h30 to 21h30 (18h00 arrival for 18h30)

Fruition House, 388 Albert Road, Woodstock (across from the Old Biscuit Mill)

From R80 (early bird until Thurs, 22 October)

Led by Amy Nelson and Ancois Human-Nelson

In queer history, cruising was a finely tuned system for hooking up with strangers. Cruising for Convos is the spin-off for the conversation hos (both introverts and EXTRAS), the ones who can go for hours and come home aching for more. It's also for shy gwurls who fantasise about long, deep, stimulating convos, but get choked up in the moment.

So what's the vibe?

Everyone arrives and gets a pack of convo cue cards, but before we get loose, we'll welcome everyone, talk boundaries and consent, and start with a casual facilitated group discussion. Then it's game on, and the challenge is to cruise through the space and converse with everyone in the room.

When you approach someone, they'll choose a category, for example Casual, Embarrassing, Flattering, Deep, Personal or Saucy. Once they've chosen, you ask them the question from your card, and you switch once they're done. You can work the whole room like it owes you an anecdote, or settle into one conversation that goes all night.

There are spaces to move through with different vibes: the dance floor (for body language), the cuddle puddle (for pillow talk), the snack bar (for your oral fixation), and the courtyard (if you wanna take it outside).

As the evening flows, we will be floating about and checking in. We are safety monitors, and Amy is trained in holding space and first-line emotional support. On the night, that means helping you take a break, settle if things feel like too much, or step in if someone crosses a boundary. We're also there to make sure nobody feels left out or overwhelmed.

The evening is for anyone redefining love, relationships or identity, and it's built to include queer, neurodivergent, nonmonogamous and minority folk. Here, being different is normal, and nobody needs you to explain yourself.

Your hosts:

Amy & Ancois Nelson | Fruition House and Shamanic Therapy

Amy and Ancois hold Fruition House, a home in Woodstock for the communities that gather here, among them the Psychedelic Society of South Africa, alongside Amy's private practice, Shamanic Therapy, which works at the meeting of sexuality, spirituality, trauma and the many ways we love and relate. Together they run the Shamanic Temple Nights, Queer Spirit Cape Town, and Beyond Monogamy SA. They're trained in psycare support, consent-forward and trauma-informed practice, and work toward genuine inclusion.

Snacks & Non-alcoholic drinks

To purchase - Botanical bar and light snacks.

The evening

18h00 Doors open

18h30 Doors close. Pick up your cards and a non-alcoholic drink.

19h00 Foreplay. Amy & Ancois lead a facilitated warm-up.

19h45 Cruising hours. Cards out, the whole house is yours.

21h30-22h00 Last orders on conversation, closing circle. One last dance, swap numbers, and a South African goodbye near the door.

What to wear

Casual or peacock! Come as you are, or peacock by wearing a conversation starter. Peacock items usually stand out, like a big hat, a bowtie, PJs, or a bondage item. (Not full bondage, you lil freak! That's a different night, okay!)

Access

Fruition House has no wheelchair access, regrettably. It's on the first floor, and there are 2 steps to the bathroom.

Is this cruising cruising?

Mostly the talking kind. Clothes stay on, kisses happen only with a clear yes, and the vibes stay chilled.

Do I have to cuddle?

No. Every cuddle starts with a question, and "no" is a complete answer. You can change your mind at any point, and you can also sit on the side and still be in the swirl of connection without touch.

Do I have to answer every question?

No. Pick another category or say you're not up for chats right now. All is valid.

I'm neurodivergent. How will this feel?

The cards give every conversation a script to start from, so there's no guessing at small talk. You can pass on any question, leave any conversation, and move at your own pace. If things ever feel confusing or overstimulating, come and find us and we'll support you!

Do I need to be nonmonogamous?

No. Queer, curious, questioning, monogamous and wondering, or the partner of someone exploring: you're welcome.

Can I come alone?

Yeabsolutely.

Talk is cheap. How cheap?

R80 early bird, until Thurs, 22 October

R120 for yourself

R110 each when you book for two or more

R200 to sponsor someone who's strapped for cash

R250 to sponsor someone and throw us a tip because you're able and so generous

Check this out: The Connection Academy: Communication tools for social & play spaces on the morning of the 8th of November.

For those of you who attended the previous Cruising for convos, thank you for your feedback.

We can see that saying no, setting a boundary and speaking up when something feels uncomfortable is hard for a lot of us. There are clear, kind ways to have those conversations, and they can be learned. We would highly recommend you attending this before the event.

Alcohol and substance free · Consent-centred · Beginner-friendly

RUITION HOUSE: WHAT’S COMING UP

Fruition House is a space for embodied connection, conscious relating, community, creativity, ritual and exploration. Our programme moves across different practices and communities, from talks and workshops to dance, sound, drumming and queer gatherings.

October

15-26 Oct: YOGILAB Official Partnered Venue/Pod for the YogiLab Vipassana Meditation City Takeover

27Oct-1Nov: Fruition House will be open as a space for integration after the Yogilab programme.

During the day: you’re welcome to come and meditate in the Gathering Space.

From 5pm: an evening offering each day, e.g breathwork, sound journey, as part of your integration. Details of times, booking and cost to follow.

Lineup:

28th AM:Table mountain Hike PM: Elemental sound journey with guest Chrisna

29th cacoa, hape and medicine music with guest Minjay (https://minjay.co.za/)

Between 30-1st (date to be confirmed): Micro cosmic breath work with sceletium tea leading into a sound journey with guest Gershan (https://elemental-journeys.co.za/)??

November

Mon 2 Nov: Free / donation based Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

Tue 3 Nov: Psychedelic Society SA Talks ONLINE ONLY:

Future-proofing Humanity by Communicating with Nature, with Dr Saskia von Diest, founder of Ecofluency

https://www.psychedelicsociety.co.za/event-details/future-proofinghumanitybycommunicatingwithnature

Sat 7 Nov: Fruition: A Remembrance of Drumming & Dance, with guest facilitator Chrisna van Niekerk

https://www.fruitionhouse.co.za/event-details/fruition-a-remembrance-of-drumming-dance-1

Mon 9 Nov: Free / donation based Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

Wed 11 Nov: Beyond Monogamy presents Cruising for Convos, a community gathering

https://www.fruitionhouse.co.za/event-details/beyond-monogamy-present-cruising-for-convos-2

Fri 13 Nov: Shamanic Temple presents Queer Men’s Temple, co-facilitated by Francis Chouler

Sat 14 Nov: Fruition: Shamanic rewilding dance experience with guest Ka (Storm Willow Hartley) a South African artist based in Berlin.

Mon 16 Nov: Psychedelic Society SA Talks | Coco & Tersius speak about traditional Bwiti initiations (with iboga)

Sun 22 Nov: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Self regulation & co-regulation

Thurs 26 Nov: Fruition Next Chapter Friends Forty+ (An evening for people over 40 who’d like to meet others and create authentic connections. Come on your own, bring a friend or partner)

Sat 28 Nov: Men’s Masturbation Masterclass, hosted by Simon Heller & Francis Chouler at Fruition House

Sun 29Nov: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Active Listening

Mon 30 Nov: Free Women’s Self Defence Workshop with Sindy Tu

December

Tue 1 Dec: Fruition Talks: Hosted by Amy Nelson (guest to be announced)

Sun 6 Dec: The Connection Academy: Relationship skills Sessions with Amy Nelson - Working with Triggers

Thurs 10 Dec: Fruition Friends Night Twenties and Thirties (An evening for people aged 20 to late 30's who’d like to meet others and create authentic connections. Come on your own, bring a friend or partner.

Dates to be confirmed, Dec / Jan / Feb

Queer Spirit: Women Connect, an evening of sharing, mingling and connection

Queer Spirit: Women Connect and Sweatlodge, a two-part/day offering

The Connection Academy: Relational Attunement for Couples (3 part), a talk on tools for talking about sex and desire,with a workshop with Amy Nelson

The Connection Academy and Beyond Monogamy: Opening Up Your Relationship, a talk and practices

Psychedelic Society SA Talks: The Many Faces of Mantis: Trickster Deity, Cosmic Gardener, World Creator, with Dr Saskia von Diest

Regularly at Fruition House, hosted by Amy and Ancois.

Monthly:

- Shamanic rewilding dance

- Shamanic Drumming and dance Circle

- Sound Journeys

- Next Chapter (make friends over forty)

- Fruition Friends (make friends under forty)

- The Connection Academy (talks, workshops and events)

- Fruition Talks (Amy interviews others)

- Fruition games night

- Beyond Monogamy gatherings

- Queer Spirit gatherings

- Psychedelic Society SA Talks and workshops

Quarterly:

- Queer Temples (women’s, men’s and all expressions)

- Queer Women’s Heat ceremony (Sweat Lodge) & Temple

Yearly:

- Couples Temple

- Queer Spirit Women’s Retreat

Want to stay connected? Message 071 603 6077 for more information or to be

added to the relevant

Fruition House community groups and waitlists.