Finding Love After Rupture: The Lost Art of Relationship Repair
Fri Nov 27, 09:00 - Sun Nov 29, 16:00
Jardim Farm
ABOUT
Finding Love After Rupture: A 3-day immersion in the Lost Art of Relationship Repair
with international thought leader James 'Fish' Gill
27/28/29 November 2026, daily 9am-4pm
Venue: The Barn, Jardim Farm, 3 Rosalyn Rd, Noordhoek, Cape Town, South Africa
Most relationships don't fail because people stop loving each other. They struggle because, when love inevitably meets disappointment, fear and hurt, very few of us know how to repair. Over three transformative days, one of the world's leading Relationship Repair Coaches, James 'Fish' Gill, will guide you into a radically different way of relating, one that replaces blame with curiosity, certainty with understanding, and recurring conflict with deeper intimacy.
This is more than a relationship retreat, it is an invitation to utterly shift the way you relate to yourself and those you love in the most painful moments of your life. Through experiential practices, live coaching, guided reflection and meaningful connection with others, you'll learn the lost art of relationship repair: how to navigate conflict without losing each other, offer accountability without shame, respond to hurt with compassion, and create relationships built not on perfection, but on the courage to find one another again and again.
Whether you come alone or with a partner, you'll leave with a way of relating that has the power to change every relationship in your life.
WHO THIS IS FOR:
This is for everybody with a human heart. If you are finding yourself getting stuck in arguing, hurts and frustrations with a partner, kids, family or colleagues, and no matter what you do you can’t find your way through, then this 3-day masterclass is for you. If you are a counsellor, leader, facilitator, coach or mentor, you will expand your skillset tremendously.
Finding Love After Rupture is a rare in-person opportunity to learn how to grow connection, safety, understanding and intimacy in any relationship no matter what shape it is in presently. The skills you will learn will enable you to navigate your current conflicts and upsets to find a deeper, more fulfilling way of relating.
WHAT WILL I LEARN?
Under the guidance of a highly experienced repair facilitator, you’ll learn how to:
- EXPRESS your unmet needs skilfully, in ways that invite others to stay present and open
- HEAR and tend to the unmet needs of others, behind their accusations and complaints
- REPAIR unresolved hurts from the past so you can find peace and hope for the future
- DEEPEN the sense of care and intimacy between you and those you cherish most
- RESOLVE day to day conflicts skilfully as they arise, so that no resentments linger
- CREATE and maintain healthy boundaries to help you feel safe, self-respecting and resentment-free
EVENT DATES AND TIMES
The masterclass runs over 3 days in November 2026. Participants are required to attend all hours across all three days:
- 9am to 4pm Friday 27th November
- 9am to 4pm Saturday 28th November
- 9am to 4pm Sunday 29th November
WHAT IT WILL LOOK LIKE
We will practice revolutionary communication tools, and nervous system regulation techniques, to enable you to stay present in the face of relationship rupture and grow deep understanding with those you cherish most. Our group practices and supported discussions will leave you excited to tackle the difficult conversations you’ve never known how to have. You’ll feel greater confidence and peace in relating to all others, even in tender moments of conflict.
A SAFE SPACE FOR LIMITED PARTICIPANTS
The masterclass will be an 18-hour program (across three days) of teaching and direct instruction, personal reflection, pair work and group work. Space is limited to 30 participants. Both singles (partnered or un-partnered) and couples are welcome. Given our different comfort levels with sharing the most tender aspects of our relational hurts, participants are supported to engage with the teaching processes only to the extent to which each feels comfortable in any moment.
LOCATION
Our retreat will be held in the beautiful and comfortable Barn at Jardim Family Farm, situated in Noordhoek.
YOUR FACILITATOR
James ‘Fish’ Gill is Australia’s leading relationship communication coach, and author of How To Fall In Love With Humanity. He has transformed relational conflicts with couples, communities and businesses since 2008, and has presented at conferences nationally and internationally. Fish’s unique method of compassionate communication and relationship repair has gained a broad reach across 16 countries. He has trained over 40 therapists globally in his radically compassionate method.
I WANT TO SHOW YOU HOW
For 17 years I’ve had the privilege of supporting humans from all walks of life through the fire of conflict and guiding them in mastering powerful, practical communication tools and relationship practices to turn their hurts to healing.
In doing so, I’ve discovered that:
- Conflict is a healthy and natural part of relating
- The world has trained us in how NOT to repair
- When navigated unskilfully, conflict becomes increasingly oppositional
- When navigated skilfully, conflict is a doorway to deeper connection
- Most of us never learnt how to skilfully repair
WHAT OTHERS HAVE SAID OF THE APPROACH YOU’LL LEARN
“The peace we now feel about the toughest, recurring issues in our relationship represents a dramatic shift. I feel like we’re in it together for the very first time and I'm profoundly grateful for this work!” Christine, USA
“I’ve completed a lot of development courses in my time, and nothing comes close to this. It has profoundly changed how I do my personal and professional relationships!” - Alex, Canada
“I am deeply inspired and touched by this work. I've been living in deep pain for so long, and for the first time I feel free!" - Marissa, USA
“I've been in therapy for nearly 20 years, and nothing has been as powerful as this course. My entire perspective has radically shifted. I'm approaching my life and relationships entirely differently.” - Melissa, USA
“I’m so deeply grateful this process. I’ve had a profound shift in how I see the world, and in the relationship with my man.” Amie, Australia
“This work is changing me from the inside out. I feel free! Hate, fear and anger are leaving me. I feel it in how I'm relating to others.” Alice, USA
COST
Attendance at the event costs R13,500 per person.
FOOD & ACCOMMODATION
A delicious vegetarian harvest table lunch will be provided each day, as well as tea/coffee. This will be a non-residential retreat. (Please reach out if you need help with finding accommodation in the area.)
LEARNING MATERIALS
All learning materials will be provided, just bring your courageous heart and your deeply rich experiences of all kinds of human-to-human relationship.
More information about Fish: www.leadbyheart.com
Follow for inspiration: www.instagram.com/james_fish_gill
This event is hosted by Manifest Productions, a heart-led initiative that curates refined transformational gatherings in and around Cape Town, South Africa by bringing together world-class facilitators, thought leaders, and visionaries working at the forefront of human evolution, exploring the edges of healing, relational intelligence, and conscious leadership.
For any questions about this event please contact Talitha Kotzé +27(0)82 433 8736 or email [email protected]
HEART COACH, FACILITATOR, AUTHOR, SPEAKER
James ‘Fish’ Gill is a Heart Coach, transformational facilitator and author of How To Fall In Love With Humanity. His work is grounded in a simple truth: when we learn how to witness and deeply honour each other’s humanity, even the hardest conversations become places of openness, willingness, understanding and accountability.
Fish guides us in seeing every moment of conflict as a profound invitation for deeper relating. He illustrates that conflict itself isn’t the problem; the absence of skill is - that without the capacity to navigate our interpersonal tensions masterfully, our resentments naturally linger, our frustrations go underground and our capacity to trust, collaborate and thrive in teams is naturally eroded.
Under Fish's guidance, conflict isn’t something to avoid - it’s something to walk towards: a powerful doorway to deeper understanding, connection, trust and intimacy in any relationship, if navigated skilfully.
Professionally, since 2008 Fish’s radically compassionate approach to conflict resolution and relationship repair has supported clients in 18 countries. He has trained over 40 therapists globally, and equipped leaders and teams with the skills to navigate interpersonal tension with courage, empathy and clarity. His speaking engagements include education and mental health conferences in Hong Kong, Perth, Brisbane, Gold Coast and Sydney.
Personally, Fish has navigated a range of deeply challenging and complex relationships and relationship ruptures, including parenting and step-parenting after a divorce, healing after betrayal, and family estrangement. It is the insights he gained in these darkest, most painful times that he now shares as teachings across the world.
RETREAT VENUE
Tucked between the mountains and wild beaches of Noordhoek, Jardim Family Farm is a sanctuary where nature slows time and the soul can breathe. The Barn is warm, intimate and filled with natural light, a beautiful space that provides both grounding and expansion, perfectly suited to three days of deep, courageous work. Between sessions, wander the organic farm and pick fresh produce straight from the earth. Mountains, sea air and the gentle rhythms of farm life become quiet companions to your healing here, holding you as you find your way back to love.
Jardim host, Angela, arranges unique cultural tours, connecting visitors with local artisans and daily life in South Africa.
NOURISHMENT
Chef Kathy Latsky from Bungalow Living Harvest Tables will prepare an abundant feast of vegetarian platters for lunch each day using fresh seasonal ingredients.
MANIFEST PRODUCTIONS
Manifest Productions curates refined transformational gatherings in and around Cape Town, South Africa by bringing together world-class facilitators, thought leaders, and visionaries working at the forefront of human evolution, exploring the edges of healing, relational intelligence, and conscious leadership.
Founded and led by Talitha Kotze, a heart-led creative and curator of transformational experiences.