Consciously communicating consent and boundaries

ABOUT

Conscious consent 

Our guest teacher, Hotsqueak, will run this wonderful workshop.

How to communicate your boundaries and desires effectively 

… while ensuring safer play, minimising and addressing risk, remaining accountable, and being compassionate.  

Purpose 

This workshop shares fundamental information on effective communication to those looking to engage in kink or BDSM, or those looking to improve their communication skills or change their communication style. 

Principles 

• Pragmatic approach that is fluid and not prescriptive 
• Transparency, safety, risk awareness and accountability 
• Broadly applicable to almost every scenario 
• Encouraging honest, vulnerable conversation 

Structure 

Part 1: 

Intention 

Establishing the “why”, intention and goal 

Part 2: 

Informed consent 

Inclusive decision-making, sharing necessary information 

Quick breather and snack  

Part 3: Boundaries (main) 

Limits, wants, needs, touch, approach and contact before and after 

Part 4:  

Risk assessment 

Skill level, risk of injury, emotional/mental risk, medical information, risk appetite 

Part 5:  

Listening and sharing 

After-play needs, debrief, what went well, what could be better 

Part 6:  

Q&A and takeaways 

Summary of main points and some basic pointers. Questions are welcome after each part and discussion is encouraged. 

Other important info 

Please wear comfy clothes, and bring snacks and non-alcoholic drinks to share for the snack table. Each person will receive an info pack to take home, but please feel free to take notes. 

Embodiment Rope Space is welcoming and safe(r) space for members of the LGBTQIA+ community and allies. We practice rope communally and host occasional workshops for upskilling the community. Rope is never safe, there are only ways to do it more safely. 

There is no practical component of this workshop but everyone is encouraged to use what they have learned.