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Lay Counselling Training: Convergence Model for Marriage and Relationship Counselling - presented by the Rev Dennis Beeselaar

Thu Aug 3, 09:00 - Fri Aug 4, 16:00

Southside Church


Course Facilitator: Rev Dennis Beeselaar LTh, MTh(Stell)

Who is Dennis Beeselaar?

Dennis has pastored two churches.

He studied at the Baptist Theological Seminary in Cape Town and obtained a Licentiate in Theology.

He obtained his MTh in clinical pastoral care and counselling at Stellenbosch University.

He served as Manager and clinical pastoral counsellor at a psychiatric clinic and TB/HIV and Aids hospital.

He also served as Director of Philippi Trust S A, a registered Non-Profit Christian organisation that offers counselling training and Christian counselling.

He assisted in the development of numerous counselling courses covering HIV/Aids, burnout, trauma, depression, stress and anxiety

Dennis is affiliated with the Council for Pastoral and Spiritual Counsellors (CPSC) and registered as Religious Specialist – Category 6. He developed five one-day courses registered with CPSC and accredited for Continued Professional Development (CPD) points, of which this course is one.

He served at Rosebank Union Church for over thirteen years and has since relocated to Durbanville.

His passion is to equip the local church with pastoral care and counselling skills to minister to those in need. 

Dennis is married to Jackie, and they have two children, Annari, Gabri and grandchildren, Ann and John

Who is this course for?

  • Any CPSC registered counsellors wishing to obtain CPD points.
  • Any lay, pastoral counsellors wishing to extend their knowledge
  • Any interested person dealing with the topic covered. No prior knowledge/experience is required.

What will you learn?

The course will cover the following topics:

  • Pastoral Paradigm for Marriage
  • Understanding The Convergence: A Pastoral Model For Marriage
  • Convergence Within the Marriage Model
  • Coming together of 2 people
  • Working Within Pastoral Angles
  • A Pastoral Tool to Work Within A Convergence
  • Communication
  • Affection
  • Comprehension
  • Workshop (Practical)
  • Understanding the effect of the breakdown of communication understanding and love within the relationship
  • Transactional analysis
  • I'm OK, you're OK

Course Details

  • Thursday, 3 August 2023, 8:30am - 4:00pm
  • AND Friday, 4 August 2023, 8:30am - 4:00pm (Final end time depends on attendee engagement )
  • Venue: Southside Church, Sun Valley, Fish Hoek

Booking Details

  • In-Person Event: Limited to 20 trainees
  • Cost: R 1 250 per person for the 2-day course (The fee covers the trainer costs, material costs, refreshments and workbook.)
  • As a registered nonprofit we ask that attendees assist us by covering the booking fees.
  • The fee does NOT cover lunch. Restaurants are located nearby.

Note: To ensure attendees get the best value from this event, we can only cater to 20 attendees. If unable to attend, please ensure cancellation is made 48 hours before the event day.

For queries and inquiries, contact Upside at [email protected]


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Day 1 - Thursday
Day 1
Welcome, devotions, introduction to the day’s training
08:30 – 08:45
Pastoral Paradigm for MarriageThe Convergence Model: Marriage/relationships
A Scriptural/theological understanding with specific reference to:
  • The Pentateuch – Genesis
  • Christ's teachings – Beatitudes
  • Pauline writings – The letters
08:45 – 09:15
Understanding the Convergence: A Pastoral Model for MarriageIntroducing Daniel Louw’s Design For A Convergence Model.
  • Theory of the model: ie.  Human problems within the Kerygmatic (preaching) model.
  • The psychological reduction of human problems.
  • Danger of Complementarianism (God and man as equal partners) in a bipolar world.
  • Communication of the Word of God in a process of empathetic understanding. With a main emphasis on listening.
  • Not only psychological reduction BUT a Faith dimension that addresses the “meaning of life”
09:15 – 09:45
 TEA09:45 – 10:00
Convergence within Marriage ModelComing together of 2 people:
  • Don’t lose identity – different but one
  • Disc Behaviour profile as a tool
Working Within Pastoral Angles
  • Emergence – blocks in the flow
  • Divergence -  splitting up due to the blocks
Coherence – convergence again
10:00 – 10:45
10:45 – 11:30

A Pastoral Tool to Work Within A Convergence
Communion within a marriage is based on 3 fundamental blocks:
  • Communication
  • Affection
  • Comprehension
Case study
11:30 – 12:15
12:15 – 12:45
 LUNCH12:45 – 13:30
 Understanding Flows within a Marriage:
  • Inflow – what have ‘I’ done to you?
  • Outflow – what have “you” done to me?
  • Crossflow - What have others done to us?
  • Reflexive Flows – What am I doing to myself?
Karpman Model
Practical exercise
13:30 – 13:45
13:45 – 14:15
14:15 – 14:45
 TEA14:45 – 15:00
  • Conflict chart
  • Application of the conflict chart
  • Growth and reconciliation sheet
15:00 – 15:20
15:20 – 15:35
15:35 – 15:55
 Feedback and closure15:55 – 16:00


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Day 2 - Friday
 Welcome, devotions, introduction to the day’s training
Feedback and Reflection on day 1
08:30 – 08:45
The Dynamics of Trust, Love & Respect within a Marriage/Relationship Understanding the effect of the breakdown of communication understanding and love within the relationship -08h45 – 10-25
 Tea Break 
Transactional AnalysisUnderstanding the CHILD ADULT AND PARENT within the Marriage Relationship
Break  Away groups – The effects of Child Adult Parent states within the Marriage/Relationship
10:30  - 11:30
11:30 – 12:30
 Lunch break12:30 – 13:15
I’m  0K – You're OK
A Biblical Model – One Another
The Theory I AM OK  - YOU ARE OK Diagram
Group Work – Application of the abovementioned theory within Marriage/Relationship  pastoral counselling
Worksheet for couples within pastoral  counselling with reference to open-ended questions
Group practice in implementing the abovementioned worksheet
Understanding and Applying The One Another Scripture references with special reference to 1 Corinthians 13
13:15 – 13:35
13:35-  13:55
13:55 – 14:30
14:30 – 15h00
14:50 – 15h30
ClosingFeedback and closure1535- – 15:45


Lay Counselling Training: Convergence Model for Marriage and Relationship Counselling - presented by the Rev Dennis Beeselaar
Southside Church
24 Corvette Rd, Sun Valley, Cape Town, 7985
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